Rewiring our brains takes practice and PATIENCE
This post will explore why rewiring your brain takes practices and patience, and why patience > pressure.
“Acceptance seems scary to people because you think by accepting this “unwanted piece of you” that you’ll stay stuck here forever. However, it’s the exact opposite.”
Belief work is what people roll their eyes at; but it’s THE thing that makes moves and then will appear “magical.”
Thought work helps with this belief building.
Action then needs to take place from that belief foundation.
A common struggle I notice is action being taken from disbelief vs belief. This will produce dramatically different results.
Dr. Nicole LePera said “A belief is a practiced thought grounded in lived experience…the more we practice certain thoughts, the more our brain wires itself to default to those thought patterns. This is especially true if the thoughts activate our stress response and vagus nerve.”
Rewiring our brains takes practice and PATIENCE.
Compassionately calling your brain out of hard-wired unwanted patterns goes a lot further than degrading yourself for not having the belief work (and results you really want), yet.
When you resist what’s actually happening in your brain, thoughts, and belief, you don’t allow acceptance to take place inside of this awareness. And, unfortunately, doing this prolongs the process.
Oftentimes, acceptance seems scary to people because you think by accepting this “unwanted piece of you” that you’ll stay stuck here forever. However, it’s the exact opposite.
Acceptance moves the belief needle forward, and gets you unstuck, faster.
Acceptance makes what’s happening inside your brain, not a problem, and instead just awareness like data to work with versus against.
Rewiring our brains takes diligence, intentionality, and repetition. It also helps to have someone pay attention to your blindspots (aka a coach).
This is what I do with my clients, daily. We Build Bulletproof Relationships…and that STARTS with the relationship with yourself.
Together, we BATTLE non-serving patterns of people & parent pleasing, perfectionism, and shame.
We BUILD safety & self trust, boundaries, and a backbone.
And, we BECOME Bulletproof by becoming bff’s with ourselves. As a result we become RELATIONALLY fit.
When you know and love YOU, all other relationships get stronger.
You no longer seek external validation to fill up your self worth tank, you know you’re worthy no matter what.
Together, we get you there while healing & having fun, making it simple, and fulfilling.
We make space, so the highest YOU can finally emerge.
If you’re ready to get out of your own way, faster, let’s set up a time for a consult call to discuss 1-on-1 high level coaching.
When you start to tap into possibility, doors open that you never believed were possible. Let’s connect.
Healing self sabotaging behaviors
ABOUT THE AUTHOR I’m Meg Smithson and I remember vividly the heartache, distress, and agony that self sabotaging behaviors caused me. Between eating disorders, anxiety, major self doubt, and constant imbalance, I couldn’t seem to live the fulfilling life I imagined.
If you are currently dealing with this, I get it & know exactly how you feel.
I spent a decade of heartache striving to fit the elusive mold of what mainstream considered “perfect” all while trying to figure out why I was put on this earth.
I learned to listen to what I needed…
…not what others expected of me. Gradually, I felt freedom like I had never imagined I could.
What does a relationship coach do?
Now, I teach women to find that freedom, too, by helping them create the relationship that they really want, faster by first healing their attachment to shame, people pleasing, & perfectionism.
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Meg Smithson, Life Coach
Meg coaches women by identifying areas of self sabotage, helping them break up with the shame that usually accompanies that, and then shows them how to set boundaries around the emerging 2.0 version they want to become, and live that life, unapologetically.
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