Why permission to Say NO is the real flex
This post will explain what three of the biggest things holding women back are and why saying “no” can become your biggest flex.
“When Shame, People Pleasing, & Perfectionism are calling the shots in your life, YOU are no longer leading your life, THEY are.”
Some of the biggest things that hold women back are:
Shame
People Pleasing
Perfectionism
Shame = takes a situation from “this is bad” and converts it to “I am bad.”
People pleasing = is saying yes when you want to say no.
Perfectionism = is constantly knit-picking & fixing in order to reach a non-existent standard.
When Shame, People Pleasing, & Perfectionism are calling the shots in your life, YOU are no longer leading your life, THEY are.
Which is frightening.
Realigning your life to where these 3 aren’t leading, is a process, but it’s possible, IF you believe it. Then, we practice it with repetition so you can flex it when needed.
Life can get to:
Noticing when shame pops up, compassionately notice its protective tendencies, & create inner safety no matter the outcome
Saying No to a request without guilt
Showing up courageously with messy action, knowing that perfectionism is an illusion
Navigating the waters of shame, people pleasing, and perfectionism become EASIER when you have someone to help point out your blindspots, notice non-serving patterns, and compassionately challenge thoughts that aren’t serving you.
I’ll teach you the tools to help you get out of these patterns, faster.
It can be fun.
It can be simple.
It can be fulfilling.
And, YOU can be the one calling the shots and leading your life from love (vs Shame, people pleasing, & perfectionism).
Healing self sabotaging behaviors
ABOUT THE AUTHOR I’m Meg Smithson and I remember vividly the heartache, distress, and agony that self sabotaging behaviors caused me. Between eating disorders, anxiety, major self doubt, and constant imbalance, I couldn’t seem to live the fulfilling life I imagined.
If you are currently dealing with this, I get it & know exactly how you feel.
I spent a decade of heartache striving to fit the elusive mold of what mainstream considered “perfect” all while trying to figure out why I was put on this earth.
I learned to listen to what I needed…
…not what others expected of me. Gradually, I felt freedom like I had never imagined I could.
What does a relationship coach do?
Now, I teach women to find that freedom, too, by helping them create the relationship that they really want, faster by first healing their attachment to shame, people pleasing, & perfectionism.
Click to schedule a free consult!
Meg Smithson, Life Coach
Meg coaches women by identifying areas of self sabotage, helping them break up with the shame that usually accompanies that, and then shows them how to set boundaries around the emerging 2.0 version they want to become, and live that life, unapologetically.
Click to schedule a life coaching consultation with Meg.
