How to Be The Woman Who Asks for What She Wants (with ease)
This post will explain why women don’t ask for what they want and why it’s a tell tale sign of people pleasing and perfectionism.
“Not asking for what you truly want is a big ‘tell tale’ sign of people pleasing & perfectionism.”
Not asking for what you truly want is a big ‘tell talel’ sign of
people pleasing & perfectionism.
To many, this is a HUGE undertaking.
Asking for simple things like:
Help with the kids
Support with a big work project
A planned date night
It seems heavy because of the thoughts underneath the “help” & “support” & “need” really are.
If there is a soundtrack of thoughts playing in the background that sound like:
“In order to be an amazing mom, I have to do all the things by myself”
“In order to be successful, I have to do it all alone without delegating”
“It’s selfish of us to have a date night, just the two of us, when we have kids”
A big one is “what will THEY think of me if they knew I had help?”
An even bigger question is “what do YOU think?”
Have you ever challenged the ‘noisy’ thoughts and questioned if they’re your own chosen thoughts or if you’ve just accepted them from your own family upbringing, society, friends, and social media following?
In coaching, we call this the ‘unintentional’ model. From there, we gently look deeper & compassionately, so that we can REALLY see what’s going on, that’s preventing you from speaking up.
If you want to become a woman who asks for what she needs, with ease, we take a peek at what’s not working to get you closer to what will.
What that looks like is to examine & then challenge those unintentional thoughts, ‘try on’ new thoughts that will produce a more intentional outcome, and take note of how you feel with these new thoughts.
Then practice.
Adjust.
Rinse & Repeat
***(until you get the result of ‘asking for what you want, with ease).’
We make everything we want, 10000x harder, simply by thinking the same thoughts that have been 1) handed down to us, 2) mirrored, or 3) seen.
Once you look at them, then you can choose to change them.
Are you willing to look in order to feel more at peace with your decisions?
This is the work. I can help you.
Healing self sabotaging behaviors
ABOUT THE AUTHOR I’m Meg Smithson and I remember vividly the heartache, distress, and agony that self sabotaging behaviors caused me. Between eating disorders, anxiety, major self doubt, and constant imbalance, I couldn’t seem to live the fulfilling life I imagined.
If you are currently dealing with this, I get it & know exactly how you feel.
I spent a decade of heartache striving to fit the elusive mold of what mainstream considered “perfect” all while trying to figure out why I was put on this earth.
I learned to listen to what I needed…
…not what others expected of me. Gradually, I felt freedom like I had never imagined I could.
What does a relationship coach do?
Now, I teach women to find that freedom, too, by helping them create the relationship that they really want, faster by first healing their attachment to shame, people pleasing, & perfectionism.
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Meg Smithson, Life Coach
Meg coaches women by identifying areas of self sabotage, helping them break up with the shame that usually accompanies that, and then shows them how to set boundaries around the emerging 2.0 version they want to become, and live that life, unapologetically.
Click to schedule a life coaching consultation with Meg.
