“Stuck” doesn’t mean something is wrong with you
This post will explore why stuck is simply a sign to look deeper.
“If you can ‘get’ stuck, you can also ‘get’ unstuck.”
“Stuck” doesn’t mean something is wrong with you; Stuck is simply a sign to look deeper, with curiosity versus shame.
And, the BEST part…if you can ‘get’ stuck, you can also ‘get’ unstuck.
Reassuring, right?
But, it takes a willingness & courage to look closer at the insanity cycle of being stuck, and just witness what you find.
Usually, what usually happens instead, is:
resist what’s happening
attempt to fix it
numb, distract, buffer
judge
belittle & bully yourself
These things, unfortunately, don’t pull you from this insanity cycle of being stuck, but instead fuel it to continue.
This cycle is relentless.
Now you feel more helpless & hopeless, and vow to do ‘all the things to fix it’ starting tomorrow.
Yet, deep down, it feels like a false promise to cover up the disgust, discomfort, and disappointment you feel but aren’t ready to face.
This next ‘attempt’ has another layer of shame piled on top.
So it’s heavier to carry…
And it takes more energy to muster up and try again.
Now, you’re overwhelmed by your inability to do this without all the inner critic drama, degrading your every move.
Your ‘stuckdom’ is now [stuck x 100]
Listen: ‘Trying again’, the exact same thing (but from punishment) that you did before, isn’t working.
What about trying something that will work, simply & permanently?
This is what I do with my clients, daily. We Build Bulletproof Relationships…and that STARTS with the relationship with yourself.
Together, we BATTLE non-serving patterns of people & parent pleasing, perfectionism, and shame.
We BUILD safety & self trust, boundaries, and a backbone.
And, we BECOME Bulletproof by becoming bff’s with ourselves. As a result we naturally become RELATIONALLY fit.
When you know and love YOU, all other relationships get stronger.
You no longer seek external validation to fill up your self worth tank, you know you’re worthy no matter what.
Together, we get you there while healing & having fun, making it simple, and fulfilling.
We make space, so the highest YOU can finally emerge.
If you’re ready to get out of your own way, faster, let’s set up a time for a consult call to discuss 1-on-1 high level coaching.
When you start to tap into possibility, doors open that you never believed were possible. Let’s connect.
Healing self sabotaging behaviors
ABOUT THE AUTHOR I’m Meg Smithson and I remember vividly the heartache, distress, and agony that self sabotaging behaviors caused me. Between eating disorders, anxiety, major self doubt, and constant imbalance, I couldn’t seem to live the fulfilling life I imagined.
If you are currently dealing with this, I get it & know exactly how you feel.
I spent a decade of heartache striving to fit the elusive mold of what mainstream considered “perfect” all while trying to figure out why I was put on this earth.
I learned to listen to what I needed…
…not what others expected of me. Gradually, I felt freedom like I had never imagined I could.
What does a relationship coach do?
Now, I teach women to find that freedom, too, by helping them create the relationship that they really want, faster by first healing their attachment to shame, people pleasing, & perfectionism.
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Meg Smithson, Life Coach
Meg coaches women by identifying areas of self sabotage, helping them break up with the shame that usually accompanies that, and then shows them how to set boundaries around the emerging 2.0 version they want to become, and live that life, unapologetically.
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