Saying “no” without guilt will become second nature
This post will explore how to SERVE vs SABOTAGE.
“It’s working” SERVES while “it’s not working” SABOTAGES. ”
Think about how many times your brain defaults to this comfortable “it’s not working” thought pattern filled with chaotic mind drama that drains your mental energy versus trying on “what if it all IS working” type of thinking.
One results in criticism.
The other results in cheering.
This inner criticism then leads to self sabotage [which increases the spame spiral].
The cheering then leads to the next productive action step [which boosts confidence].
Yet, when you’re stuck, it’s hard to see any other way.
OR, to see that you actually have a CHOICE out of each option. [You actually do].
Your thoughts and feelings will drive your actions moving forward.
And, so will your past conditioning.
Addressing the ‘little things’ from your past that have driven your entire life (that you don’t think are traumatic enough), just need to be compassionately noticed, compassionately challenged & confronted, and then cleaned up.
Especially if they don’t truly serve the life you’re after. And, if you still think your circumstances are in charge of your life, versus you.
In order to get to an “it’s working” mindset (and lifestyle),
‘Unlearning’ will become your favorite form of self care.
Saying “no” without guilt will become second nature.
And, pairing new thoughts, that cheer versus criticize, will become your new norm.
Unlearning will become a bigger priority in your growth, healing, and evolution of self than just adding more “shoulds” to your neverending to-do list.
And, it will get you to where you truly want to be, faster.
This is what I do with my clients, daily. We Build Bulletproof Relationships…and that STARTS with the relationship with yourself.
Together, we BATTLE non-serving patterns of people & parent pleasing, perfectionism, and shame.
We BUILD safety & self trust, boundaries, and a backbone.
And, we BECOME Bulletproof by becoming bff’s with ourselves. As a result we become RELATIONALLY fit.
When you know and love YOU, all other relationships get stronger.
You no longer seek external validation to fill up your self worth tank, you know you’re worthy no matter what.
Together, we get you there while healing & having fun, making it simple, and fulfilling.
We make space, so the highest YOU can finally emerge.
If you’re ready to get out of your own way, faster, let’s set up a time for a consult call to discuss 1-on-1 high level coaching.
When you start to tap into possibility, doors open that you never believed were possible. Let’s connect.
Healing self sabotaging behaviors
ABOUT THE AUTHOR I’m Meg Smithson and I remember vividly the heartache, distress, and agony that self sabotaging behaviors caused me. Between eating disorders, anxiety, major self doubt, and constant imbalance, I couldn’t seem to live the fulfilling life I imagined.
If you are currently dealing with this, I get it & know exactly how you feel.
I spent a decade of heartache striving to fit the elusive mold of what mainstream considered “perfect” all while trying to figure out why I was put on this earth.
I learned to listen to what I needed…
…not what others expected of me. Gradually, I felt freedom like I had never imagined I could.
What does a relationship coach do?
Now, I teach women to find that freedom, too, by helping them create the relationship that they really want, faster by first healing their attachment to shame, people pleasing, & perfectionism.
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Meg Smithson, Life Coach
Meg coaches women by identifying areas of self sabotage, helping them break up with the shame that usually accompanies that, and then shows them how to set boundaries around the emerging 2.0 version they want to become, and live that life, unapologetically.
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