How Shame Makes You a Victim and How to Slay It for Good
This post will explain why shame is like a villain and how it strips you of your power.
“Shame is like an emotional villain. Its superpower is to transform any negative outcome into a personal defect, which then strips its prey (you) of power.”
Shame is like an emotional villain. Its superpower is to transform any negative outcome into a personal defect, which then strips its prey (you) of power.
Here is are examples of shame’s superpower:
Physical body [eats a whole bag of oreos]:
This is bad → I AM bad
Parenting [yells at child]:
This is terrible → I AM a terrible mom
Performance [doesn’t meet $$$ goal at work]
This sucks → I SUCK at making $$$, hitting goals, and I AM an underperformer
From this ONE unwanted act, shame makes you feel like something is wrong with you, defected, defeated, and disgusting. And, then makes you feel like you are DESERVING of anything negative that comes your way.
I call this a shame spiral. AND, it does nothing but take you down, insult your abilities, and strip you of your power.
I help my clients SLAY shame.
As shame is addressed, you get plugged back into your power.
Constantly operating from thoughts of being defected and unworthy aren’t going to produce sustainable results that you really want.
Berating & punishing yourself into action is only going to create more misery and fuel the shame spiral operating longer.
That’s not working (and if you were to be honest with yourself, hasn’t been working for a long time).
I help you pull shame up by the roots, realign, and then actually take action from a place of LOVE & COMPASSION vs shame.
Trust me, it’s waaaayyyyyyy more productive (and fun & fulfilling) this way.
I can teach you how to break your own shame spiral down and get out of your own way, faster.
Healing self sabotaging behaviors
ABOUT THE AUTHOR I’m Meg Smithson and I remember vividly the heartache, distress, and agony that self sabotaging behaviors caused me. Between eating disorders, anxiety, major self doubt, and constant imbalance, I couldn’t seem to live the fulfilling life I imagined.
If you are currently dealing with this, I get it & know exactly how you feel.
I spent a decade of heartache striving to fit the elusive mold of what mainstream considered “perfect” all while trying to figure out why I was put on this earth.
I learned to listen to what I needed…
…not what others expected of me. Gradually, I felt freedom like I had never imagined I could.
What does a relationship coach do?
Now, I teach women to find that freedom, too, by helping them create the relationship that they really want, faster by first healing their attachment to shame, people pleasing, & perfectionism.
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Meg Smithson, Life Coach
Meg coaches women by identifying areas of self sabotage, helping them break up with the shame that usually accompanies that, and then shows them how to set boundaries around the emerging 2.0 version they want to become, and live that life, unapologetically.
Click to schedule a life coaching consultation with Meg.
